‘Enough’ is always a word that depends on others. We use it to fit ourselves into somebody else’s measure. Being adequate and passable. We live in a world where we constantly feel we don’t live up to expectations.
And the highest bar often isn’t the expectations others set for us. It’s the expectations we set for ourselves. And so we beat ourselves up, we feel unworthy- we think ‘I’m not enough’. We constantly strive to improve, to ‘self-actualise’.
And if we don’t really like ourselves, it’s impossible to love and accept ourselves the way we are. That is why real love must begin on the inside. You cannot give to others what you don’t yet have. You cannot love others without loving yourself. If you feel constantly like you’re never enough, you will always feel like others are never enough too.
Constantly looking for more, for better. Escaping this vortex is simple, but it is not easy.
All it takes is for you to acknowledge that you are a human and that you are enough! Now, before you get anxious at the thought of giving up your journey of self-improvement allow me tell you one thing, it doesn’t mean you can’t change, it doesn’t mean you can’t improve and become a better person.
Once you accept yourself for who you are, once you love yourself unconditionally, for all of your failings and mistakes. Well, then the reason for changing suddenly shifts.
By shifting your attention from the agony of your own inadequacy will allow you to look up and around. When you decide to step forward into self-improvement, it will be because you want to make the lives of the people around you better. Starting with you, wherever you are at!
The only way to get here is through the surprisingly difficult realisation that you are okay In fact, you’re more than okay, you are awesome and more than enough.
