Frequency attraction: What’s that?

Ever heard anyone say, ‘What you put out is what you get back?’ Well that’s the easiest way to explain frequency attraction. In my workshops, this is the topic that confuses a lot of people.

Your outer reality is simply a reflection of the frequency you put out. Your frequency is made up of your thoughts, beliefs and emotions.

So, if you are feeling sad, depressed and lonely, you are sending out a lower frequency. The great love you are desperately looking for is not on the same frequency.

Therefore, instead of attracting what you really desire, you will not attract anyone at all or you will attract someone who will make you feel even more sad, depressed and lonely.

If you do find a partner when you’re at a low frequency, it will feel good in the beginning. The reason is that you are both vibrating at the same low frequency. So, it’s an energetic match.

As time goes by, you will quickly see that you feel the same way. This new partner brings out exactly the same emotions you were feeling before you met. Now you start asking yourself why you keep attracting the same unhealthy, unhappy relationships.

The reflection is not always literal. It doesn’t mean that if he is an abuser that you are too. It means that you have a belief that you are not safe, and men are dangerous.

If she is a gambler, it doesn’t mean that you are too. It means that you have a belief that women are irresponsible. Your inner thoughts and beliefs are being reflected back to you.

When I first heard that I create my own reality, I was actually furious. I refused to believe that I would create hurt, struggle and such disastrous results. Life was extremely challenging and that was the driving force that put me on the path of personal development.

I was trying to understand why bad things happen to good people. The more I learned that I was completely responsible for the life I had created, I started to realise that if I had created my problems, maybe I could also create the solutions.

I started to change my thoughts and my beliefs about the world and about people. I looked at all the soul shattering experiences I had endured and decided that I will not carry the pain, the anger, the guilt and the blame into my future. I understood that all these emotions were on a very low vibrational frequency.

Letting go of the past and all the painful memories and experiences did not happen overnight; but I was determined to let it all go and I understood then that if I did not change my frequency, I would not change my life.

I know that change is often frightening. We sometimes hide out in our comfort zones, afraid that if we step out, we may get hurt again.

However, the personal development journey is the most exciting journey you will ever embark on. It is a lifelong journey.

Getting to know yourself on a deep level, inspires you to develop your potential and live your best life. It motivates you to step outside your comfort zone; to feel the fear and do it anyway.

When you get to the point where you know you are being the best version of yourself that you can be, your frequency increases.

Your thoughts are more positive, you know and believe that you have so much to give and you deserve a partner who will reflect your best self, back to you. You are ready to attract a relationship on a much higher frequency.

A relationship that is loving, because you are loving. A relationship that is kind and caring because you are kind and caring. A relationship that is fun and inspiring, because you are fun and inspiring.

When we expect someone else to make us happy when we are unhappy; there’s nothing that they can do, that will ever be enough, for them to accomplish that task.

You must create your own inner joy, your own inner bliss and acceptance and then watch as your life, your outer reflection, begins to reflect that back to you. Doing the work on yourself first, to elevate your frequency is not easy or comfortable but it is absolutely worth it!

Kas Naidoo is a relationship coach and matchmaker. She can be contacted via [email protected]